Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Things parents should do for their children:
1. Pray for and with with your children. I believe one of the most powerful things a mother can do for her child is to pray for them. Pray for their well-being. Pray for their spiritual health, physical health, emotional health, social health, mental health, and their future success.
2. Teach them about Jesus Christ. I wish all parents would realize that the most important gift that you could give your child is the knowledge of Who Jesus Christ is and what He has done to redeem man back to the Father. Then give your child the opportunity to receive the gift of salvation - Jesus Christ as their Lord and Savior.
3. Help your child to discover who they are according to the Word of God. Teach your child about themselves and help them to have a positive self-esteem. Help build confidence in them by praising their efforts, encouraging them, and allowing them to explore different things in life so they can begin to have an idea of who they were made to be when they grow up.
4. All parents should recognize that you are to be the primary influencer in your child's life. Not the t.v., video games, friends, the babysitter, etc. You are to be your child's primary influencer. God has given you that ability - please don't pass it off to someone else.
5. Parents should realize that your children will learn more about life and what to do by your example. Children learn by what they see quicker rather than what they hear you say. "Do as I say and not as I do." -- Does not work! If you want your child to be obedient, respectful, loving, caring, kind, gentle, patient, etc.... You must first model that before them and be consistent.
6. Discipline is not a bad word and you can discipline your child without spanking them. Spanking is not the only form of discipline. Discipline is love. Love is not just kindness, goodness, caring, and gentleness. It also includes selflessness, correction and discipline. Your love for your child will (when necessary) sometimes lead you to discipline your child because true love brings correction. Discipline should flow out of a genuine love and concern for your child and not anger. Seek God for wisdom when disciplining your child.
7. Spend time with your children. Kids spell love - T-I-M-E. NOT, T-H-I-N-G-S. Parents take time to spend good quality time with your children. It will help to build a sense of love and security for your child and they won't feel the need to look outside of the relationship to get what they are lacking at home.
8. Communication is very important in any relationship. Communicate with your child and allow them to communicate with you by listening to them when they speak. It's very important to them and it builds security, love, and trust. I cannot begin to tell you how many children I have taught and the majority of them say their parents don't listen to them.
9. Let your yes be yes and no be no. Don't change up, don't be fickle. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Stand firm! They want to know that there are boundaries and they are looking to you who is the adult to teach and show them.
10. Be Consistent.